In my opinion, New Year's resolutions set us up for failure. They give us reasons to be hard on ourselves after a fun, festive time of year. They're a broad, social example what Gay Hendricks refers to as an Upper Limit Problem: after experiencing a lot of good feelings, we subconsciously find ways to sabotage those good feelings in order to bring us back down to a normal-feeling level, a place where we feel more comfortable.
But just because I don't make resolutions doesn't mean I haven't set intentions for the new year. I've set a lot of intentions, and one of them is to be really, really gentle with myself. Transition and growth takes time and perseverance. Lasting change requires a balance of self-discipline (a.k.a. “tough love”) and self-nurturing (“tender love”).
What I see in most people I work with is a lot of tough love, and not a lot of tender love when it comes to his or herself. So I thought I would share the following tips to help you grow more tender, nurturing self-love in 2011.
Here's to your best year yet in 2011—with or without the resolutions!
For those of you who are looking to integrate yoga into your life in 2011, check out my Intro to Yoga Class or try a Breath Circle. I always welcome your yoga questions and comments at firstname.lastname@example.org.