I think I made a mistake. I am really not so sure, I haven’t made up my mind completely and not sure if I will ever come to a conclusion I can settle on.
Last week, while on vacation with my husband and toddler, I saw a pregnant woman smoking. She arrived to the beach with her group and immediately began lighting up one cigarette after the next. I snapped a photo of the woman and immediately tweeted it.
I was furious yet completely smug in my thought that this woman deserved every bit of shame that would come her way.
Now, over a week later, I am still thinking about my tweet and I am not so sure my public condemnation of her actions was appropriate. I still think she is a disgusting pig, and I can feel free to continue to think that way, but in reflection there are plenty of things I do as a person and a parent that I am sure would encourage an onlooker to shame me.
- While in the security line at the airport, my daughter dropped her cereal bar on the floor – I picked it up and gave it back to her.
- In her stroller at a crowded outdoor mall, my daughter became upset and needed a distraction – I gave her a tampon.
- Insistent on eating what Mom and Dad were eating, I allowed my daughter to continuously scoop salsa into her mouth via handfuls of tortilla chips - Until the hotness finally caught up with her and she began to cry loudly in front of a packed patio restaurant.
- Refusing both the poncho and umbrella I tirelessly tried to cover her with, I have walked through a busy parking lot in the rain with my daughter using both the poncho and umbrella for myself - Allowing my child to be drenched by torrential rains.
So there you go. Perhaps there are tweets, Facebook posts and Reddit photos of my “bad” behavior. I still do think the smoking pregnant woman is a disgusting pig and now feel not quite as bad about calling her out for it. Maybe.
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