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Females in the Moshpit: How San Antonio Women Owned the Every Time I Die Show Last Night and How Much It Ruled to Watch


A girl lands in the crowd after stage diving as the lead singer from Every Time I Die rocks out. - CHRIS CONDE
  • Chris Conde
  • A girl lands in the crowd after stage diving as the lead singer from Every Time I Die rocks out.

“Don’t be mad,” I said to my boyfriend through a FaceTime call as he was getting home from work. “But I’m going to Turnstile and Angel Du$t tonight.”

He hangs up on me and I laugh out loud ‘cause I know he’s pissed he can’t go since he lives in Austin and has to be up at like 4 a.m.

He calls me back and with a smile tells me to enjoy myself and have fun without him. We both agreed that this lineup is probably one of the best hardcore lineups to pass through Texas all year.

A friend and I got to the Paper Tiger just as Vein was closing out their set. I had seen them live before when they toured with Code Orange earlier this year. They put on a rowdy show, and anyone who has seen them live would probably agree that they are definitely one of the rising powerhouses in hardcore right now.

Being a gay dude and growing up going to hardcore and metal shows, I’ve had to be more aware of my surroundings than my straight counterparts. I think women and other people of color can agree that sometimes punk rock and hardcore can oftentimes not be a safe space for us. Trust me when I say that homophobia, misogony and racism still exist – even at rock ‘n’ roll shows.

This didn’t feel like the case at all at last night's show.

Spotting another LGBTQ friend in the crowd and seeing a huge amount of women at this show, which featured headliners Every Time I Die, the aforementioned Vein and Trapped Under Ice splinter bands Angel Du$t and Turnstile, it really stood out to me how diverse the audience was.
Angel Du$t - CHRIS CONDE
  • Chris Conde
  • Angel Du$t
It’s hard to describe Angel Du$t without just blatantly saying the dudes, especially heartthrob frontman Justice Tripp, look and sound smooth as fuck for being a hardcore band. A wave of arms and fists ebb and flow through the crowd as the Maryland band pulled the audience through half an hour of their punk rock/hardcore stylings.

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Turnstile was up next, and by how the audience exploded into a chaotic sea of sweat and moshing, it was clear that most of the folks at Paper Tiger last night was here for them.
Turnstile - CHRIS CONDE
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  • Turnstile
I made my way to the side of the stage to get some shots and protect my camera because the room was in full-on riot.
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My heart warmed as I witnessed the most women I had ever seen at a hardcore show claw to the front, crawl on stage, grab the mic to sing a few of the lyrics and somersault into the crowd as the room spiraled into a quake of chaos.
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There definitely were some dudes in the mix, but seeing these ladies hold their own, swinging fists in the pit, made me hopeful that this and the next generation of hardcore kids from marginalized communities will claim their space at these shows.

Headliners Everytime I Die, who were on tour celebrating their 20 years as a band, rocketed into their set as the room was bursting at the seams.
Every Time I Die - CHRIS CONDE
  • Chris Conde
  • Every Time I Die
The band played a little bit from all of their albums over the course of two hours, stopping between songs to muse at how rowdy the San Antonio crowd was. “There’s nothing like a show in Texas! I knew this was going to be the show of our tour after the third song!”
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Every time I die!

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As the band closed out the night, swaying the crowd with their groovy southern-esque metalcore melodies, I reflected on a time where I didn’t feel safe at shows, where I felt like I needed to act more “straight” or seem “tougher” or whatever bullshit I felt 15 years ago. Maybe it’s just growing up and not giving a fuck now, but I definitely left feeling a sense of family and community at the show and I hope that this maybe encourages more LGBTQ folk, women and people of color to venture out and show up at these spaces.
Every Time I die - CHRIS CONDE
  • Chris Conde
  • Every Time I die
We're definitely in a new age of hardcore. Last night reflected that, and it feels more inclusive than ever.

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